Making An Impression On Your First Date
November 27, 2009 at 5:24 pm | Gay Dating Articles | No comment
We’ve all heard the classic ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ line, let’s face it which of us hasn’t heard it or used it before? But how do you get over this and meet someone new? For gay men in particular, it can be difficult to find someone to date or start a relationship with.
Being gay has become more socially acceptable in comparison to days gone by and there are a vast number of ways to meet other like for like men who you might be interested in dating. The growth of the internet has brought with it a huge number of different online dating sites including gay online dating.
One of the great advantages to this is that you can browse through hundreds of different profiles in a short space of time. Profiles typically come with photographs and details descriptions of the individuals so that you can really get a feel for what they are like as a person. Some websites offer information that their friends have written about them which can be an even more useful insight into their personality.
So you have found a couple of guys that take your interest and its really easy to talk to them over the internet on the gay dating site but when it comes to your first date what should you do. Some people finding their first date the most nerve wracking experience but it is something that should be enjoyed as it could be the start of something really special.
Use this opportunity to polish up your flirting skills. When sitting in the bar or restaurant, make sure that you are sat in front or near to him where you can maintain eye contact, the eyes are the window into a man’s soul and you can tell a lot from a person’s eyes. Be playful with your glances, steal a glimpse for a couple of seconds at a time and then look away, as well as always making sure that you are smiling.
The first 60 seconds of any date are the most crucial. This is where you are both sizing each other up so you need to make sure that it creates an attraction between the two of you. Make sure you’ve made an effort beforehand, if you are going to a posh restaurant, dress the part. It’s a good excuse to buy a new outfit! It all whittles down to the art of seduction.
You’ll be able to tell if he is interested in you just by looking at one another. If he can’t look you in the eye or looks uncomfortable when you are talking to him then he probably isn’t interested and vica versa.
Always keep your cool; you don’t want to come across as a needy, desperate guy who is goes from one boyfriend to another. Don’t talk about your exes whilst on your first date, there is plenty of time for that later on in the relationship. Go with a couple of ideas of what you might talk about before you get there. You want to keep his attention and make the date all about him, make a conscience effort to really get to know him.
However, the best advice you can be given is to be direct, if you like him, say you like him and don’t skate around the issue. There is nothing worse than being led on. If the feeling is mutual, call him when you say you will and don’t be afraid to make the first move. After all, what have you got to lose?